I scared a new parent
I think I scared a colleague today. I haven't seen him in awhile and last I knew his wife was expecting, "do you have a baby yet," I asked:
"Yes, he's about a month old now."
"Oh congratulations, that's wonderful. How are you guys doing?"
"We are getting used to the new routine." Then he paused answering the presumed question that I might ask even though I wouldn't, "though he's still not sleeping through the night."
Nonchalantly I say, "No of course not." internally thinking "of course your 1 month old isn't sleeping through the night that is okay he's one month old!" And then in a terrible attempt to normalize his experience I scared him shitless, "Don't worry, our 18 month old just stopped sleeping through the night."
What I should have said, "You'll sleep again, I promise, and someday a rough patch will be just a patch and not a lifestyle."