What I love about having 2 kids
I recall that only one person offered us lovely predictions of what was to come.
"My toddler!" I replied.
If I recognize that I want to be changed by the experience of being a parent and I ask myself, "how can I be reflective, open, and transformed by this...," then somehow the dishes and laundry become less important. People seeing our mess, Maggie (the dog) eating a diaper now and then, the bathroom rug being damp ALL the time- these things are not that important. So even though I would change them if I had total control over my life. I don't have that control...and really I don't want it.
And then there is this other wonderful thing happening. Miriam and Junia are falling in love. They look at each other with such mystery and wonder. Junia cannot keep her hands off of Miriam and Miriam cannot keep her eyes off of Junia. I didn't know that watching your kids love one another would be so beautiful. It is amazing. My words don't begin to sum up the richness of watching my children love one another! And, the crazy thing is it doesn't make Miriam's attachment to myself or Sean any weaker. There is quite simply an abundance of awe in her. Awe for the people around her and a shocking amount of love that she will give!
Seeing your children love one another is cool.
Despite the fights we have in our future or the tears from hair pulling or whatever- creating a family is an amazing gift.